How To Manage Raw Emotions Effectively

By Larry Murphy


There are days you wake up feeling psyched and bursting with energy, then someone from nowhere does something that leaves you in rage. Such raw emotions have lead millions of people into the most atrocious acts. How do you avoid being emotional or even deal with the feelings when they are about to have the best of you?

Take a deep breath and rethink your actions. This will buy you the few precious seconds that make a difference between a regrettable act and saving the situation. The breath helps you refocus and avoid injuries, insults or damage to property. You reconsider your action and therefore avoid a catastrophic end.

Put yourself in the shoes of your offender. Some reactions come from lack of deeper thought or failure to understand the circumstance that led the person into making the decision that you now consider atrocious. Taking a moment to think of the person allows you to have a better understanding of the situation. It dawns on you that your reaction could have been similar in the same circumstance.

Depart from the scene. This gives you the space to clean your thoughts and clear the mind over the situation at hand. Remaining at the scene means that your mind continues to be toxic. Negative feelings will boil to an uncontrollable point. Take a break and your reaction will not be as damaging as when you remain at the scene.

Take control of your mind. All actions and emotions come from whatever is going on in your mind. Control what you think about the person or situation. Master the thoughts that would cause you to act abruptly. Taking control of the mind saves you from taking a regrettable step.

Adapt controlled behavior or reaction to a situation. Controlled behavior or action can be attributed to the character of a person. It means that you have developed a way of dealing with similar situations. You are required to act as the bigger person in the circumstance. This remains the only way to make a reasonable decision.

Identify the feeling, acknowledge its existence and accept the entire scenario. This consciousness helps you to realize how close you are to taking a regrettable action. Since the feelings have been identified and accepted, they can easily be dealt with.

Engage in self-soothing acts. These acts are unique to each individual. While some people hum tunes they are fond of, others will stroll outside. Other self-soothing acts include gazing at the horizon, tapping the desk and talking to a friend. It is a way of deflecting the negative energy and buying time so as to avoid a nasty reaction. It shields you from regrettable actions in future.

Lean on a reliable support system. Everyone has a person he or she calls or talks to at home, work, or in the community whenever things go wrong. Place that call or go to see the person. A little dialogue or even seeing the person will calm you down and make even the worst situation manageable.




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